Whether you're male or female, the ideal body images is several levels above what is merely considered healthy. For men, having the ideal body is not so much about having a body mass index (BMI) that promotes longevity as it about having an appealing shoulder-to-hip ratio. The ideal male body, as dictated by popular media, is muscular with a trim waist and broad shoulders that form a V-shape.
Most men become obsessed with exercising and can even block out the pain from a injury so that they can get to their ideal body image. Another factor that can cause a man to become obsessed with their body image can include family background, the parenting style that men were raised with, their life experience, trauma, experiences of being bullied, and negative or shaming experiences with body and weight.
Repressed emotions can cause some people to either gain to much weight or loose to much. Once you figure this out you will be able to help yourself.
Mend and Massage
Michael Tamez (health coach, and wellness author) says that massage was a key factor in addressing his deeper issues.
Massage can help - it's incredibly healing and powerful - is that it helps to release these repressed emotions and feelings that men have. The power of human touch is incredibly healing, and a lot of people are starved for human tough and intimacy.
A systematic review found that massage could have a potential role in addressing depression among patients with builimia nervosa, for example (Eating Behaviors 2006); and a study found that adolescents with eating disorders rated massage therapy as the most helpful aspect of their hospitalization experience (Eating Weight Disorders 2006).
Massage and Men
In men, stress is held in the lower back and glutes - and that's because of how our bodies process stress. Stress goes to the place that has the most power. Men use their core a lot, they use that whole area. Men also strain to puff their chests out ad put their shoulders back, and that strains the lower back. Also tighter in mend than in woman, are the iliotibial band (IT Band), hamstrings, and quadriceps.
In giving massages I have notice that the men who are more open emotionally and mentally tend to carry stress where woman usually carry it.
David Lauterstein (LMT educator, & co-founder of the Lauterstein-Conway Massage School in Austin, Texas) mentions, " I'm of the opinion that pressing harder is not always the best approach - and that relates to men, in particular, because a lot of men believe, even more so than woman, in [the adage of] no pain, no gain. They may not really grasp that they need to open up from the inside out, rather than the massage forcing them to let go from the outside in."
For any man reading this who might be struggling with the issues that have been described, I encourage you to try massage. It can help you release the stress caused by your past traumas and current life stressors. And for massage therapist who may have male clients with these issues, please keep doing what you're doing. Your efforts are essential and they are deeply appreciated.
Created to: Philip Weber and clips of his article in Massage magazine issue 253 - June 2017